The Myths of Failure

myth vs truth

“Fear of failure.” We’ve all heard the expression at some point in our lives. And, if we’re completely honest, we’re guilty of taking the expression to heart all too often. It can be used as a motivation – that fear of failing drives us to double our efforts in order to avoid failing and guaranteeing our success.

But therein lies the problem. We’re spurring ourselves onward based solely on the myth that failure is something to be feared. In actuality, we should embrace failure.

For if we are candid, we must confess that we are far more likely to learn valuable lessons when we fail than when we succeed. In fact, anyone who has ever accomplished anything worthwhile did it only after a period of experiencing setbacks and adversity. For nothing separates ordinary and extraordinary people more than their perception of and response to failure.

Here are five myths of failure that successful people have come to realize:

1. Failure is Avoidable
2. Failure is an Event
3. Failure is the Enemy
4. Failure is a Stigma
5. Failure is Final

Failure is NONE of these things. It is NOT avoidable – even the best and the brightest, the most successful people in the world have failed at some point. It is NOT an event – failure is not a cataclysmic moment that brings the world to an end. It is NOT the enemy – failure is not a fire-breathing dragon to be slayed; rather, it is to be learned from. It is NOT a stigma – failure does not leave a stain that cannot come out. It is NOT final – failure is never permanent.

Learn to fail forward by recognizing that you will spend the majority of your life making mistakes, but as long you don’t give in to the myths of failure you’ll be just fine. Remember, the more you do, the more you fail. The more you fail, the more you learn. The more you learn, the better you get.

I’m Going To Be A Published Author!


Hey Everyone!

I’m excited to share the news that I’ve just been offered a publishing contract for my young adult, paranormal romance/supernatural suspense novel, Sunrise. Lycaon Press, the Young Adult imprint for Breathless Press, contacted me Monday evening and said their acquisitions team loved the manuscript and wanted to make me an offer.

I just signed the contract, so look for Sunrise to be released next Spring!


Be Like An Eagle!

Bald Eagle in mid-air flight over Homer Spit Kenai Peninsula Alaska Winter

For centuries now, we’ve come to identify our national ethos with the image of the eagle. We’ve regarded the large bird of prey as a living symbol of freedom, power, bravery, grace, and determination. The symbolism is so ingrained into our culture that we often associate it with some of our proudest achievements. Think about it. The highest rank one can achieve in the Boy Scouts is Eagle Scout. When man first landed on the moon, what did Neil Armstrong say? “The Eagle has landed.”

But what truly emphasizes the uniqueness of this majestic animal is its characteristics. In fact, three traits of the eagle serve as great examples for us in life:

#1: Eagles Have Vision

If you’ve ever seen an eagle, it’s usually high above the tree tops or gliding over mountain peaks. Eagles can actually soar to an altitude of 10,000 feet – the only bird on the planet that can attain such a lofty height. From lofty altitudes, eagles see life from above. This allows them to not only get a clear picture of their surroundings, but also to observe what lies ahead, which positions them to see and seize opportunities.

We need vision to chart a course and successfully navigate the environment and changing circumstances of life to achieve our goals. Specifically, we need to see:
 Within – What do I feel?
 Behind – What have I learned?
 Around – What is happening to others?
 Ahead – What do I anticipate?
 Above – What part does God play?
 Beside – What resources are available?

#2: Eagles Are Fearless

Often times an eagle will hunt prey that are much larger than itself, pose a degree of danger, or are very elusive. Whether the target is small deer, goats, snakes, or fish, the eagle never surrenders to the size, strength, or difficulty of its prey. They possess a remarkable, relentless amount of courage to take on risks.

We need to be fearless in order to face problems head on. Fearless, courageous people are never dismayed in the face of the odds, for they are never afraid of failure. They maintain a fierce, tenacious persistence when taking on big endeavors that may seem unachievable.

#3: Eagles Welcome and Take Advantage of Adversity

Almost all animals seek shelter when a storm approaches. They take cover and hide until the bad weather passes. Not so with eagles. When a storm rolls in, and eagle says, “Let’s go!” Instead of hiding from the blasting winds, an eagle flies into them. The strong currents of air allow the eagle to soar faster and farther than in normal flying conditions. The eagle eagerly takes advantage of the very storm that lesser birds and animals avoid.

Everyone faces storms, but we need to welcome them as opportunities to rise up and soar faster and farther than before. We must realize that adversity can provide the following advantages:

 Adversity creates resilience
 Adversity develops maturity
 Adversity pushes the envelope of future performance
 Adversity provides greater opportunities
 Adversity prompts innovation
 Adversity brings unexpected benefits
 Adversity motivates

Don’t be a parrot, content to sit on the same perch, mulling over the same stale seeds and repeating the same words day after day. Be an eagle! Fly the coop, spread your wings, and dare to soar to the best of your ability. You never know where the winds might take you.